One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Monday, 31 January 2011

Advice from the Royal College of Obstretricians and Gynaecologists

On Friday, the Royal College released this advice.

http://www.rcog.org.uk/news/tog-release-more-information-needed-fertility-women-all-ages
Basically, they feel that girls and women should be given - along with other sex education information on preventing pregnancy, information on the optimum time to have a child which is before 35 years of age.

Saturday, 29 January 2011

Some challenges facing couples in making the decision to have a baby or not

Following on from my post yesterday, I thought I would outline some of the problems that face couples in making this decision. Often, both partners are equally unsure about which decision to make - and they want to work together to find out what they both wants and what their relationship is wanting. In relationship coaching, we talk about the 'third entity' of the relationship - and this is a helpful way of thinking beyond what each partner wants. Think 'What does the relationship want?'

In more difficult situations, one person will want to have children and the other not. OR another likely situation is that one person wants children OR doesn't want children and the other person is unsure. This lack of clarity can be frustrating for both.

In many cases, it will be helpful for the person who is unsure to work - either on their own or with someone like me - to decide what it is they really do want before working with their partner in something like couples coaching

Friday, 28 January 2011

Coaching Couples who are struggling whether to have children or not

Over the past few years, I have received a number of enquiries from people wanting to be coached as a couple on this decision - rather than as individuals. This is a very good idea but I have never offered this service as I haven't trained as a couples coach.

However, I now am offering a package of coaching for couple in colloboration with my partner Judy Van Zon who is an qualified couples coach. The service will include: an individual session for each partner with myself at the beginning of the coaching programme. Then couples will be offered a number of coaching sessions with Judy together (we suggest a minimum of 4 coaching sessions). If anyone in the partnership would like another individual session throughout the coaching, they can book one in with me.

So, if you would like relationship coaching around this issue, please let me know. And I will set up an initial consultation call with you to discuss the coaching and how it works.

Sunday, 16 January 2011

Testimonial

I completed with a coaching client last week who had come to me about six months ago seeking help with her decide whether to have children or not. She wrote me a testimonial which really touched me ~ I feel so priviledged to be able to do this work.

'I came to Beth because I was in a panic about the decision to have children or not. I was afraid to make the wrong decision and regretting this forever. I have come to realise that there is no wrong or right decision and that I can live with the decision that I make. I feel that I have fully explored the issue and am relieved to know that I will not look back on this time in my life and think that I didn't have the courage to address it head on. Taking the time to explore the question with Beth was the best thing I could have done to enable me to move forward on the decision.' (Cassie, Central London, 39)

(For more info about my coaching on these issues, you can do go to this page of my website Do I want to have children?)

Monday, 3 January 2011

Choices and the decision to have kids

I've been quoted in the Economist Magazine!!! Very excited - my quote appears in the third paragraph from the bottom of the article which is all about the difficulty of making choices in a world with abundant choices.

http://www.economist.com/node/17723028?story_id=17723028