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I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Monday, 29 October 2012

Just saw this from the Scotish Herald from a woman who is childfree.  Many of my clients who are leaning towards being childfree report that they have to deal with thoughtless comments from friends and family.  It can be annoying but there are techniques that will help deal with these comments/barbs.


http://www.heraldscotland.com/comment/columnists/one-friend-said-that-it-was-a-terrible-shame-as-my-husband-would-make-a-wonderful-father.19235927?_=9ad24c41f37e8083ea0e1be887a8234190214962

Sunday, 28 October 2012

Listening to your inner voice or intuition


One of the unintended consquences of having greater choice and freedoms is that we need to be thinking and considering the baby decision in a much different way than our mothers or grandmothers.  Helping my clients listen to 'their inner voice' is the mainstay of what I do as a coach and so I was really pleased to read the writer of this article say that this is the most important thing that women who are considering this decision.  

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/natasha-koifman/deciding-to-have-children_b_1973568.html

Thursday, 25 October 2012

Why women choose not to have children

I'm always on the look out for positive articles about women who have made the decision not to have children.  I found this which gives some great and positive reasons why women have decided not to have children.

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/why-women-choose-not-kids-135900488.html

Monday, 22 October 2012

Should I marry somone who doesn't want children?

Here is a piece of good advice from another woman wondering whether to marry someone who doesn't want children.
 http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/9558137/My-boyfriend-doesnt-want-kids-should-I-marry-him.html

I give people in relationships similiar guidance as the author of the advice column said in her article:

'Together you could discuss what your relationship will be like if you do not have children. What can you see yourselves doing? What might you enjoy as a couple? I am assuming from your question that you want children, but it may be worth thinking about how much you do want a family and whether you would be genuinely happy with him in a childless relationship.'

If you can work together with your partner to create a vision of your relationship without children, that is a good place to start.  You might also find you need to do some individual work on your own to discover whether you really do want children.  I often work with women in this situation and one of the reasons they come to me first (rather than go straight into couples therapy or coaching) in order to really get clear whether they want a family or not. 

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

Combining having kids with work

A question that clients raise in coaching sessions is how about how they would cope with a busy career and raising a family.  As I have mentioned elsewhere in the blog, women without kids can see how their colleagues who are mothers struggle to maintain a work/life balance.

I found this interesting article where senior women leaders in the tech industry talk about how they have developed new ways to overcome this age old problem for women.  One of the interesting points that one of the women raised was about how they noticed how women talked themselves out of a career before even having children, assuming that they couldn't have both.  I also see it the other way around - where women will talk themselves out of having children assuming they can't have children and their career. 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2012/oct/05/women-work-life-balance-twitter