One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Tuesday, 25 February 2014

Interviews with childfree men

Here's an interesting blog post where six men who have decided to be childfree are interviewed.  Men who decide to be childfree  are less discussed then women so I think it's very interesting to hear their perspective for a change.

Sunday, 23 February 2014

Nothing can help you make the decision whether to have children ornot??!!!

I'm sure it's no surprise to hear that I really disagree with the title of this article.  Having helped many (over 150) women make this decision through coaching and having heard that my book is helping others make the decision, I would (of couse!) say that coaching can help you make the decision whether to have kids or not!

However, the main point that they make I am certaintly in agreement with - this is NOT a decision about what will make you happier or not! As the research they quite points out, people are making the decision based on a range of factors including overall life satisfaction.  When I'm coaching women (and sometimes men) we look at a range of issues.

I was also pleased that researchers confirmed a key message I always tell my clients that I believe it is making the choice a deliberate one - and that has been backed up my emails I've received from women who both choose to have children and those that didn't - that because they took the time in coaching to examine their fears,!their visions for the future and other key issues, they felt able to move forward from a place of uncertainty,  

Here is the link to the article:


Thursday, 20 February 2014

A pattern I've noticed  is that a signification proportion of  partners who are reluctant to have children with women who do want children appear to display narcissistic  characteristics or signs they have avoidant attachment style.  I want to stress here however that many,many men and women who decide to be childfree have valid reasons and are often clear and fair and adult in explaining this to potential partners and current partners.  As I have said many times, it's a perfectly good and valid choice to make

However, I have noticed that  when a good percentage of the women clients who do want children talk about their relationship and their partners, certain themes emerge again and again.  The biggest theme is that in addition to not wanting children, the partner doesn't often compromise in the relationship or is reluctant to show signs they are willing to commit long term to a relationship.  I am planning on doing some research around this for an updated version of my book.  In the meantime, here is a link outlining some of the basic characteristics of narcissism.   I also highly recommend the book 'Attached' by Amir Levine which discusses adult attachment styles.


Wednesday, 12 February 2014

New comic video - Try not having kids

This amusing video Try not having kids with a serious message about reviewing and thinking about your life choices has been released by a comic group in the States.  Watch it and let me know what you think!


Sunday, 9 February 2014

Are You Ready For a Baby?

I'm so excited to be featured in this article Are You Ready For a Baby? which is in this weeks issue of the Stylist magazine.  http://m.stylist.co.uk/life/are-you-ready-for-a-baby

Glad to see one of the other experts featured concurred with my viewpoint!!

Thursday, 6 February 2014

Cheryl Crow on the decision to adopt as a single parent

I was listening to BBC Radio 4 Women's Hour today and heard Cheryl Crow talk about her decision to adopt two children as a single mom.  So I decided to have a look on the Internet to see if I could find anything with Cheryl talking about this decision.  In this interview with Cheryl Crow on adoption she says something I really agree with

'What advice would you give to moms who want to adopt as a single parent?
The only advice I have is that there will never seem like a great time to do it — just like when you're married, it never seems like the perfect time to have a baby. So you dive in and make your life work.'

YES!

Monday, 3 February 2014

Is the choice to be childfree harmful?

Interesting article that appeared in Newsweek last year with the title Why the Choice to be Childfree is Hurting America  - I don't agree with all the conclusions of the author but an interesting argument nevertheless!

Saturday, 1 February 2014

Testimonial from coaching client


Here is another testimonial from a client I finished coaching with yesterday.  I love helping people articulate and work through what is one of the most difficult decisions to make.

'Even after the first introductory call with Beth I knew she was going to be the right coach for me.  As Beth is an expert coach regarding the ‘baby decision’ she immediately spotted one of the key issues within my relationship and was able to verbalise it in a way that I had never considered before.  With Beth’s help, I have come through one the toughest stages of my life yet with the knowledge that every possibility was carefully considered, and that I have come out at the other side confident in the all of decisions that have been made along the way.'  Vee, 36, United Kingdom